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What a couple should do to be happy together

Are you and your spouse happy together?

When a couple starts a relationship it’s usually very upbeat for most of them. Everything is rosy. Some even manage to finish their sentences together. Now during the first days of a budding romance, each partner usually goes out of their way to impress one another. However, as time goes by, some couples get comfortable. And before you know it, things become stale and boring.

When you go onto the internet, there are so many topics that couples search on relationships. For instance, “How do I maintain the chemistry in my relationship?”, “How to succeed in a long-term relationship” among other things. Clearly, it seems more couples really want to be happy together. They want to have the kind of relationships that lead to old age and taking care of one another in old age.

So how can a couple have a happy and fulfilling relationship throughout?

As a couple, you need to find ways to turn up the heat and maintain or rekindle the fire. Now when it comes to fire, sex is what most couples think about. However, being happy, and much as sex is important in a relationship, sex alone doesn’t cut it. You have to also maintain the emotional connection too.

That said, let’s talk about sex first

Now if you used to turn each other up-side-down when you first started dating after a while, most couples just prefer the plain old missionary position. This is not saying that the missionary doesn’t work. There are various versions of it that can work to your advantage. Try doing it with the woman’s legs on the shoulders.

Now, in one session, you can manage to go through a number of positions, especially those that allow eye contact or those that make it easier for clitoral and boob access to make the woman orgasm faster. Outlined below are some of the sex position names you could try out and their variations:

Compliment and appreciate one another.

Women love praise. Now one thing that can make a woman happy is by appreciating the little things she does with a simple “thank you” note. At the same time, try as much as possible to remind her how sexy she is every now and then.

Now, this goes both ways. A man also likes to know that his efforts are also being recognized. Now for men, the appreciation is more on him providing and how he does masculine things around the house. Always let your man know that he matters.

Gift one another

Nothing says ‘I love you’ and ‘you are always on my mind’ like surprising your loved one with a gift or flowers. It doesn’t have to be something that will break a bank. Get an engraved key ring for your man, buy him new golf clubs. Flowers always put a smile on a woman’s face. Chocolate too. And while at it, never forget to gift her on birthdays and anniversaries.

Don’t forget date nights and getaways

Always find time for yourselves. Go out and have some fun. Somewhere where you can enjoy each others’ company. Plan simple dinners. You can also have picnics with one another as you watch the sunset. Also, take vacations or a night away from your usual home settings. Taking the love away from the usual has a way of heightening and freshening things up.

Go down memory lane

As a man, if you can keep reminding your woman of the things that made you fall in love with her, or the first night you met, then you have her attention. Do little things to remind her of those special days that you made her feel like she is on top of the moon.

Reminiscing about these moments usually, makes one remember why they fell in love in the first place. And this also makes them remember why they should do whatever they can to make it work.

Be faithful and true

Secrets are bad for relationships. Share with one another the things that matter most to the two of you. Being faithful and true to one another is something that is necessary for a couple to be happy together. If you feel temptations coming their way, seek therapy and find ways as a couple to get back on the trust plane.

Saying “I love you” goes a long way.

Never forget to kiss, cuddle and say “I love you” as often as you can. Say it with words, say it with nice gestures. But most of all, let your actions always reflect how much you love one another by doing all of the above.

 

 

 

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Interracial Dating Vs Interracial Marriage

A person you’ve been dating ends the relationship because they’re not interested in marrying interracially. How many of you out there have experienced this? Yes, interracial dating is definitely on the rise and is generally much more accepted today. Society is more tolerant of non-traditional couples and, as a result, a lot more people are willing to give interracial dating a try but that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re willing to take the big plunge.

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Why would somebody date interracially but not want to marry interracially? On the surface it smacks of every negative racial stereotype you’ve ever heard of, right? Good enough to sleep with but not good enough to make a wife etc. Sexual curiosity… the bane of interracial dating. That might be the situation with some but there’s something else to consider as well. There are a lot of people, men and women, who just don’t want to deal with the cultural challenges of an interracial marriage. Dating is a different story. You can end a dating situation if things get too complicated because of racial differences but that’s not really an option for marriage. Once you take the vows, as in any marriage, you’re tied to that person and ending it can be messy. Plus, it would be hard for a judge to consider racial issues as “irreconcilable” differences. That’s why a lot people are wiling to date but not marry interracially.

Now, when you take a step back and really think about it… can you blame them? Normally, it’s a good thing when people are willing to take some time to think about what they could and couldn’t deal with in a marriage and we often encourage our friends to date different people to find out what those things are. So, why can’t racial issues be included in that basket of other things that you should consider? If it’s okay for a person to walk away from a dating situation because they don’t like the other person’s personality quirks shouldn’t it also be okay for someone to walk away if they think that an interracial relationship is too much trouble for them?

It’s not really a waste of anyone’s time to date even if they’re unsure about how they’d feel about marriage. If people only dated because they were marriage-minded, there would be a lot of empty restaurants on Friday and Saturday nights. A person can genuinely be attracted to you, and for all the right reasons, but realize that the stares in public make them too uncomfortable. And, yes, it’s okay for you to be disappointed in them for not being strong enough to endure that sort of thing for the sake of being with you but, ultimately, if they’re not willing to try you shouldn’t force them. Otherwise, your relationship will not be based on the right kind of foundation. And you should definitely want to know that before going into it. If you can see that your mate may not be able to deal with the challenges of an interracial marriage don’t wear blinders.

Now, whether or not you’re willing to go out with someone who makes it known upfront that they’re not interested in marrying interracially is a completely different story. Obviously, it depends on what you’re looking for and how mature you are. That’s kind of like going out with someone who doesn’t want kids though when you have a five-year old at home. But then again, if you’re just dating to date and not to prescreen people for marriage then maybe that’s something you’re okay with. We’re not suggesting that you should or shouldn’t go out with people who wouldn’t marry interracially. We’re just examining what some of the motivations might be. Ultimately, it’s up to you to figure out if you’re willing to go out with someone who isn’t interested in marriage… whether it’s due to race or not.

How To Date Someone Of a Different Race Or Color

Tip: There shouldn’t be any pretending.

There’s one thing to remember: If love or attraction between two people of different color is not possible, then there shouldn’t be any half-citizens at all. Here are some things to do when dating someone of a different race.

1. Stop pretending even before you start doing so.

You don’t have to pretend to be someone you’re not. It’s either you’ll end up creating a wrong, condescending impression, or having to stick to your pretentions all your life. While you may want to express your interest in the other person’s language or ways, you have to be sincere and avoid mimicking. You may also want to avoid creating an imprint of pure intentions when you’re only after steamy escapades.

2. Open Up Your Mind

Most of the time, it’s not all about the difference in language or skin tone, other views vary from one culture to another. Hence, you may have to brace yourself when dating someone who comes from another race. There’s no right or wrong, just variety.

You’re Dating A Human

Even when you know part of you wants to experiment on what it’s like to be in a relationship with someone of foreign blood or culture, you should remember you’re dating a human being, not a guinea pig. Your potential partner may be someone different, but it doesn’t mean you’ll just play along. Respect begets respect.

While you consider your date as a foreigner or different, remember it’s vice versa. You are also unusual, on your date’s point of view. Ideally, there shouldn’t be any superior or inferior, especially in love and relationships.